Comments by "Okunniger Volker" (@Okunniger_Volker) on "Why Men are Choosing to Remain SINGLE ......." video.

  1. Unfortunately shame, guilt and fear immobilize people, joy and hope are what change the world for the better. The issue is so many are coping and compensating for that guilt, shame and fear, they reject that these emotions may be rooted in any legitimate reason and ignore the causes and thus cannot grow as a person, enjoy the smaller things in life much less have the courage through hope to chase harder challenges that do move the world.
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  2. First 5 exs cheated, 6th was violent AF! It would've been nice if my dad had taught me the lessons I learned the hard way, but I regret nothing, every one of those exs screwed their lives up royaly in the process of screwing me over and continued to do so more with time. Sure it sucked at the time, but now I'm happier and better for it and so is my wife.
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  3.  @ktulu3767  if shame encourages positive change then why does the slutwalk and fat acceptance movement exist? It SHOULD encourage positive change, but in the day and age when many people cannot differentiate between right and wrong and confuse conviction and discernment for judgement, it's no wonder they run from accountability and assume all negative feelings must be illegitimate. And therein lies the issue with modern society, they think morality is subjective, when even from a naturalist perspective it literally cannot be. Water a plant to much and it will get root rot and die, water it to little and it will drop leaves and fruit if not entirely die. There is a balance to be struck in all of nature which if it is not, death comes faster. From a Biblical perspective, sin is the root cause of death, pain and suffering, God's laws exist to do one primary thing, show us how to live in His way that He would be glorified through our obedience and submission to the disciplines of His ways. When we look at dopamine and what is adaptive VS what is non adaptive we see not only a need for balance, but also that some things are simply objectively and scientifically proven to be unhealthy. And when we look at the world's solutions (take medication for anxiety and depression for instance) they actually compound the issue and make it worse, the real solution is discipline and striking that balance then of adaptive behaviors while mitigating as best we can the non adaptive behaviors. But the world genuinely hates that, they would rather indulge until they die a early and miserable death, to "live fast and die young". This issue is revealed to a much greater degree when looking at the world's solutions for shame/guilt/fear VS Biblical. Not trying to be a Bible thumper, but it's obviously true when you look at the science and the teachings and contrast the modern solutions, of which there is a incredible disconnect between the science and the applied medical and psychological solutions.
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  4. @motherfreedom5979  I'm not upset by it, I have for the most part been on my own since I was a toddler, all that just taught me to be more self reliant which is important for a man. I'm not bitter or upset, the truth is simply I was trying to pet rabid dogs and didn't understand why I kept getting bit, the fault is truly my own as I was slow to learn. We all know these kinds of people exist, sometimes we allow our emotions to blind us and ignore red flags, I got what I deserved, they got what they deserved, it all balances out.
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  5.  @motherfreedom5979  this is why I think arranged marriage is a good idea. At least in some way. My son is 4, but when he's old enough to understand I'm just going to tell him point blank, he's in training, I am his mentor and my entire goal is to guide him to success in every single way and I expect that he takes full advantage of living at home and having me as a resource. In the end, whatever I build in my lifetime will go to him, dosent matter how he turns out, if he goes off the wall then it would serve as a lesson, if he listens and grows then he will take what I've built and build it even more.
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