Comments by "Okunniger Volker" (@Okunniger_Volker) on "PsycHacks" channel.

Sounds like you need hobbies. Get a project car and teach your kids how to work on one. Get a surf/snow board and get them active. Start doing some woodworking ect. Your wife and kids won't make your life fun, but you can make theirs fun if YOU are a fun person.
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This is why I say MGTOW is just feminism for men; because at the end of the day it is compensating for what we were not taught when we were younger, things we should've known before we got burnt and became reactionary. It's important to put them out of your mind and work on yourself. The spectrum of confidence is not reality but a lense by which we see the world, nor necessarily is your history a accurate representation of what you can accomplish since it was painted with that lense that you had at that time. How do we know what we are capable of then? Well, I'd say generally speaking were capable of more than we often think, though this coming from one who had tended towards the low self esteem end of that spectrum. If you're average IQ, you're a pretty capable person, you've just gotta look at things maybe a bit like a fitness coach would, what are you likely to achive and how do you shape and structure your life in a way to accomplish the most? Take exercise as a example, if you're having a hard time sticking with it, is it because you're trying to make it work instead of fun? What about finances? How can you make yourself more likely to be successful and how could you make it enjoyable and or a game? If you can do this, you'll accomplish a lot more than you think you can, and realize that you're able to. Another way I view it is when your young your parents guide you telling you what you should and shouldn't do, telling you what's going to help you most and get the results you seek. Much of the time we make our decisions a bit more short sighted than that, so the question here is; how do you make discipline a fun and rewarding game? This will vary from person to person, but ultimately is boiled down to lessons we were not taught when we needed them.
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@artificer845 basically just treat them the same way you treat men. In this gynocentric and feminist culture men have been taught to put women on a pedestal, if you just stop doing that it really helps, though it's important to learn this prior to being jaded by women otherwise you'll have to address those issues separately and they will be legitimate issues that could cause you to mistreat a genuinely good woman.
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@spiritualpolitics8205 and I agree with you 100%, I was just kinda illustrating how mainstream conceptions of these things are objectively uninformed, even if you look at these things on a macro scale the mainstream criticism and talking points against men are flawed at absolute best. This of course won't mean anything to the double digit IQ of the mainstream, but maybe to guys who might be insecure in this regard it may offer a little insight and allow for informed confidence. Besides, I'd rather be physically impotent but rich in character, knowledge and virtue than the inversion of that, it's easy to follow a life of vice, but it is men of virtue who we remember.
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ED is most often linked to vasoconstriction, not enough exercise and or issues with circulation. Another major cause is anxiety about performance. If I remeber correctly low T only makes up like 3% of ED. In other words, the main reason for ED is basically not being active. The hardest part about this is everyone seems to be determined to make activity harder instead of fun. There are of course a lot of other cofactors, but if you eat a clean diet and are somewhat active you'll probably be alright. That being said, it takes two to tango, sexual performance is not one sided and women have their own form of ED which effects them just as much as men, for them though it's mostly psychological.
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@spiritualpolitics8205 and I agree with you 100%, I was just kinda illustrating how mainstream conceptions of these things are objectively uninformed, even if you look at these things on a macro scale the mainstream criticism and talking points against men are flawed at absolute best. This of course won't mean anything to the double digit IQ of the mainstream, but maybe to guys who might be insecure in this regard it may offer a little insight and allow for informed confidence. Besides, I'd rather be physically impotent but rich in character, knowledge and virtue than the inversion of that, it's easy to follow a life of vice, but it is men of virtue who we remember.
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@Mike80528 that's actually a great analogy because if you can't get yourself up to the bar, stepping up and failing (doing a negative) is a great way to help build the strength to get yourself up to the bar.
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@viktoriax7228 I notice he didn't deny your assertions. There are plenty of younger women who don't play games and thinking the older ones didn't is just silly. But to sabotage yourself out of a young healthy family and the growth at that age is sad and is absolutely a cope. Some people, like the ones these guys are getting, just mature slowly. Better scraps than nothing I guess and considering his logic and reasoning its not hard to see many of these types coming from a place of desperation.
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@macadamia668 I will measure any species by the same metrics. If a human fails to mate as biology dictates, then there is some issue. To determine that issue is quite easy, humans are not the complex creatures they like to believe they are (in order to justify their lack of understanding and or shortcomings, real or perceived). In "perfect" conditions, all humans would happily mate. In perfect conditions, all humans would care for their offspring and in perfect conditions all humans would maintain a mate. To deny this is to deny basic biology usually justified by psychological and or social conditions that are not perfect or ideal. These things are obvious to anyone not wearing baggage with an ounce of objectivity, so "know it all"? Absolutely not, but do I understand the basics better than most? Without a doubt. Call it arrogance all you like, but that is a mute claim unless you can prove the above wrong. And you said it yourself, "its the lack of mind games..." this is a social issue which in its absence leaves younger women far more attractive, but what role does hypergamy play in womens vetting process for security which they are biologically wired to attain? Is that inherently bad? Or is it infidelity that is the issue? There are those who react, and those who understand, the difference between the two is vage to those who react, and stark to those who understand.
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I was 21 she was 29. Absolutely hell no and never again! 100% jealous psycho who used her own son against me because she knew I cared for him and wound up losing him because she got hooked on meth living out of her car. Now I'm married to a woman 8yrs younger and no competition but to see who can give each other more love and show more appreciation. We have a beautiful 5yr old son and the healthiest relationship out of anyone we know.
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