Comments by "Robert Morgan" (@RobertMorgan) on "Therapist Reacts: "I am too boring for other people."" video.

  1. I have the perfect example of why you are right: the astonishing success and popularity of REACTION videos. On its face it does seem stupid, I'm going to watch this person watch a movie, I could just go watch the movie...but we are FASCINATED and OBSESSED with seeing how other people react to things, to see if it lines up with our own experience. It has to be a giant drive in us because it's completely taken over social media and video platforms, reaction content is like 75% and 20% of the remainder is content reacting to the reaction. We watch reaction videos for the reactor, not the media, and that's wild.
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  2. Unless you're used to hiding, then that attention can feel like an attack of some kind. Why is this person being suspiciously caring to me, what do they WANT?
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  3. ​ @sadyoshhours2769 it's on her to communicate that effectively so she doesn't get ghosted. He doesn't owe anyone anything.
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  4. Just realized, if any other human person is boring to you, that's solely YOUR failure of imagination. Think about yourself, you are a vast virtually unknowable thing, you don't even know yourself all that well. So engage that imagination, I use this trick: think about what you want to know about you, then ask other people that. Like, i wonder how I feel about X, hey other person, random question but how do you feel about X? Oh, that's an interesting answer, i would have never come to that conclusion, thanks! And now your entire thinking changes. Nothing of infinite complexity can be boring, your improper study of it is boring.
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  5. People are infinitely complex. If you get bored studying something of infinite complexity, it's not the fault of the thing, it's your failure in studying it. In 40 years so far I've never run out of fascinating questions to ask myself, so I can't imagine running out of things to ask someone I'm actually engaged with studying. If I'm fascinated I obsess.
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  6. ​ @giftzwerg7345 if someone asks what happened I'll tell them what happened. If they ask how I feel, that's a different and unrelated conversation to the facts of the event. Remember, feelings are involuntary chemical reactions, so they are both by definition irrational and meaningless. It also means you are not responsible for feelings, they're just feelings. Thoughts and ideas on the other hand require rational, meaningful deliberation, meaning you are liable for THOSE.
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  7. Knowing the problem is literally over half the battle. If I know what's wrong with something, that half the fixing DONE. Taking it apart, fixing, and putting back together is the other 20%/10%/20% I've long said that, if I knew what was wrong I'd have it fixed already, troubleshooting takes the longest. You can't make a travel plan without knowing your destination.
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  8. ​ @mmecharlotte where I live, I want therapy... problem is there are none. If I want a MAN I can see in person, it's a 90 minute drive one way. If I want to see a woman, there's 50 in walking distance...but all my issues are with and due to women, so I want help from a trained masculine figure... can't find one. I'm being oppressed by this.
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