Hearted Youtube comments on Louis Zhao (@TheLouisZhao) channel.
-
830
-
739
-
531
-
449
-
271
-
227
-
180
-
160
-
133
-
118
-
99
-
80
-
75
-
63
-
59
-
53
-
52
-
47
-
40
-
39
-
38
-
35
-
35
-
34
-
33
-
28
-
27
-
26
-
25
-
23
-
23
-
20
-
Nice video. I have three things to say:
First, congratulations for leaving a job that deteriorates your mind. Wish you good luck for whatever you decide to do in the future.
Second, I would like to point out that the situation is NOT that "you are not that important", "you are not as important as you think". The situation is that "comparing to the lost/inconvenience you may cause, your wellbeing/survival is more important/valuable".
Hence, your colleagues' responses to your resignation is not telling you that "you are not important, you are not that important, your leave does not cause any problem to us" but telling you that "don't worry about us, although it's a loss for us to have you leave, we are strong enough to cope with this. Take good care of yourself." It's a positive vibe, not a negative one.
And finally, "being yourself" and "not causing inconvenience to others" are not mutually exclusive. What really important here is to strike a balance between the two.
Let me take the toilet example you used in the video as example: we keep the toilet clean not only because "dirty toilet would cause inconvenience to others", but also because "dirty toilet would cause inconvenience to ourselves". If everyone keeps the toilet clean, then everyone will have a clen toilet to use.
What goes around, comes around. We care about something, not because others care about, but because we, ourselves, care about that thing. We are the subject, not others.
Be nice to yourself. Don't value things/behaviors simply based on whether (in your perception) others care or not, but on YOU, yourself, care or not.
Misjudging/misinterpreting others thoughts frequently lead to disasters and tragedies. The opposite of "important" is not "worthless". In most cases it means "even though not that important but still valuable".
Cheers~
19
-
18
-
18
-
17
-
17
-
14
-
14
-
14
-
13
-
13
-
13
-
12
-
12
-
12
-
12
-
12
-
10
-
10